When I was 13 years old I took karate lessons for over a year. In that time I learned how to do a round-house kick, fend off an attacker, break boards (ok, one board) and meditate. At 13 I didn’t realize the power of meditation. I just enjoyed my classes that designated the full hour to sitting in the dark, cross-legged, eyes closed and quiet. To my surprise the time would pass quickly. Once it was over I would bounce up, grab my coat and go home. Never really thinking twice about what I did. What my mind and body just did and accomplished for a full hour.
I would give anything to have a full hour to quiet my mind these days. I have a feeling the time would drag on. I would think about the 100 things on my to do list or start planning some event in the way future. That is a bad habit of mine. I can’t let one holiday, event or party pass by without thinking ahead and planning for the next. I feel like I would be one step ahead when it came to the quiet part. In fact, I prefer to have a quiet house when it’s just Lila and I home during the day. If the TV is not being watched or the music is not being listened to then I have them off. I used to love background noise, but I find that Lila and I can make enough noise on our own that we don’t need it.
Since I can not dedicate a full hour to meditation a day I take advantages of the little opportunities that I am able to. First thing in the morning after Tom has gone to work and before Lila wakes up I sit up in bed and give myself 10 minutes to clear my head before the day starts. When Lila wants to be rocked to sleep for her nap or bed and when I’m not singing a million songs to her I take that moment. I take that moment to appreciate this little being in my arms then I clear my head, rock and meditate. I would like to add some time at night to clear my head as well. Another goal of mine perhaps.
It just so happens that the book 10 Principles of Spiritual Parenting talks about meditation as a way to connect with God and yourself.
Meditation is the practice of quieting our physical bodies and minds while focusing our attention inward. – 10 Principles of Spiritual Parenting
I recently found a blog, Pick The Brain, and found that a few of their past posts were dedicated to meditation. Here is what they had to say.
What are the benefits of Meditation?
- Improved concentration – A clear mind makes you more productive, especially in creative disciplines like writing.
- Less bothered by little things – Do you sometimes allow yourself to get upset by little things? It is the nature of the mind to magnify small things into serious problems. Meditation helps us detach. We learn to live in the here and now, rather than worrying about the past or future. We do not worry about meaningless things, but see the bigger picture.
- Better Health – There have been numerous studies pointing to the health benefits of meditation. The reason is that meditation reduces stress levels and alleviates anxiety. If we can reduce stress, many health benefits follow.
- Knowledge of Self – Meditation enables us to have a deeper understanding of our inner self. Through meditation we can gain a better understanding of our life’s purpose.
Is Meditation Religious?
The great thing about meditation is that our philosophy/religious belief is not important. Meditation is about consciousness. The beliefs of the mind become trivial. We dive deep into the heart of the matter to gain access to our soul – our inner reality. Therefore, mediation can (and is ) practiced by people of different religions or no religion.
But I don’t have time To Meditate
Many people like the idea of meditation, but feel they don’t have enough time. When you really want to do something you can find time. Get up earlier or watch 30 minutes less TV. Meditation requires an investment of time, but clearing the mind makes the rest of the day more productive. Nothing is better than the feeling of inner peace. What is the point in being tremendously busy but unable to enjoy it? Meditation is not about retreating from the world; it gives us inspiration. Whatever you do, if you have peace of mind, your work will be more enjoyable and productive.
How to Meditate:
Like anything worthwhile, meditation requires practice. To get the most from meditation you need to do it every day. This requires a place and time where you will not be disturbed.
- Sit with a straight back. Don’t try to meditate lying down because you are likely to fall asleep. Meditation brings relaxation and peace but at the same time this is a dynamic peace. Meditation is quite different from the relaxation of sleep. When we really meditate, we are fully alert and conscious. Our sense of awareness is heightened. Afterwards you’ll have a positive feeling for the world and a renewed sense of dynamism.
- Don’t eat before meditating. After a heavy meal your body will be lethargic with digestion.
- It is not necessary to mediate in the lotus posture. It is fine to meditate in a chair, as long as the back is straight.
- Burning incense and having a candle are not necessary, but they can add a little extra inspiration.
- It is good to meditate early in the morning.
One Pointed Concentration
However you learn to meditate, you must learn to concentrate on one thing at a time. Usually, the mind tries to hold several different thoughts and ideas at once. When you sit down to meditate for the first time, you realize how cluttered the mind is. Mediation teachers have described the mind as a “mad monkey”. However, the mind can be tamed and forced to concentrate on a single thought.
One helpful technique is concentrating on a candle flame. Narrow your gaze to the small tip and block out all other thoughts. When you get distracted, go back to focusing on the candle flame. You can also use other objects like a small dot or flower. The important thing is that you concentrate only on one thing at a time.
Another way to learn concentration is through the use of mantra. A mantra is the repetition of a sacred word. For example, you might repeat the mantra AUM a certain number of times. Repeating a mantra forces the mind to focus on a single thought.
After you’ve practiced concentration and learned to focus on one thing at a time, you can proceed to the next stage: no thought at all. Achieving a silent mind is difficult, but when to attain it the experience is powerful. A technique I advise is viewing your thoughts as separate from your self. When a thought appears, make a conscious decision to throw it out of your mind. Over time you realize that you are capable of allowing or rejecting thoughts. Your real “I” is not a collection of thoughts, but something far deeper. This is the most significant realization of meditation – that you do not have to be a slave to your thoughts.
Through meditation, you attain the power to control your thoughts, and on occasion stop them completely. Don’t be discouraged if you can’t attain a silent mind straightaway. It takes time and practice. There is nothing really else to it; meditation is a simple and spontaneous action. Unfortunately, our mind is used to complication and it takes time to unlearn bad habits.